Back in my early twenties I always thought my sexual habits and fantasies were a bit on the perverted side. I enjoyed regular sex, but always felt as if there was something missing. I fantasized about various sexual scenarios, like domination, strap on dildos and sex in public places, but never had the confidence to ask my partner if she was willing to indulge in these fantasies.

After a couple of years, I started using the services of escorts and this really opened my eyes to the world of fantasy sex. At first I was little bit shy when it came to discussing my fantasies, but as I slowly got more confident I began to explore a world of sexual pleasure that’s hard to describe.

For me, the key to sexual satisfaction lays in openness. Be frank with your sexual, ask them if they are willing to explore your sexual fantasies together. If your sexual partner is an escort, ask in advance what services she offers and ask if she’s willing to consider your request. Some escorts only offer vanilla sex, so it’s better to ask beforehand to avoid ruining the date.

Another option to consider are internet dating sites. There are hundreds if not thousands of them online, but which ones are worth joining? In the past 5 years, I’ve tried about 25 such sites and here are some brief reviews on my top 3.

Alt.com – This is my favorite site and one of the few that I still have a monthly membership for. I joined it about 2 years and still get that tingle of excitement when I login every day. The sex is devoted to lovers of alternative sex, practically every fetish you’ve dreamt off is featured here. They have chat rooms, easy profile browsing, groups and enough local members to keep you coming back every day.

Adult Friend Finder – More of a mainstream sex personals and dating site, but still great. They have over a million members worldwide, so you’re sure to find someone local to you. Like Alt.com they also have plenty of chat rooms and enough action to keep most people satisfied.

Webcams – Another option to consider are the webcam sites. These sites are a great way to explore your sexual fantasies from the comfort of your own home. The great thing about these sites, is that they are anonymous, so the girls don’t know who you are or where you’re from (unless you tell them). For those of us lacking in sexual confidence, this can be a big bonus. You can learn the ropes on webcam, before putting your new found experience into practice.

Anyway, I hope my story has inspired you to be explore those sexual fantasies of yours that have been nesting in the back of your head. I truly believe that a healthy sex life helps keep us physically and mentally healthy, so I wish you good fucking!!!

For easy reference, I added direct links to some of the more popular fetishes on alt.com (don’t worry if the search for a particular fetish returns no results in your area. Place your own profile and you’ll be surprised how quickly you get some responses).